Month: October 2017

October 30, 2017

Tuesday Morning Bible Study cultivates a new perspective on Advent using the lens of art and music. Join Woods Potts on November 7 and 14 to see how Christian art has influenced all art and Susan Shimp on November 21 and 28, and December 5 and 12 to learn how music has continually announced the birth of Christ and prepared our hearts for His coming.

This group meets 11:45 a.m.-1 p.m. in S203.

Contact Garrell Keesler for more.


The Motherless Moms support group, for women grieving the loss of their mothers as they are raising children, meets December 5 at noon in the Frances Browne Dining Room for conversation and support.

Participants are welcome to bring lunch. For information, please contact Katherine Kerr (

October 17, 2017

Read about the individuals who were elected recently to serve as your Elders and Deacons for the Class of 2020. They will begin serving in January, 2018.

October 16, 2017

Pen read this letter to FPC Youth during the service on Sunday, Ocober 15, 2017.

Dear FPC Youth –

I’ve met many of you, and I’m looking forward to getting to know you better. I’ve taught you in Confirmation. I’ve been with you a few times on Sunday nights at youth group. When some of you were in fourth grade, you got to put me on the hot-seat and asked me questions as a part of your catechism class. I thought that was awesome. We shake hands sometimes after church. I’ve loved sitting in the pew on Youth Sunday when you lead worship (everybody at church loves Youth Sunday, by the way).

In a few cases, I’ve gotten to know you through difficult events—like when your grandparents were sick, or your parents. Sometimes, even, when you were sick.

What I want you to know is that you are amazing.

And I am so, so grateful that you are a part of this church and this family in faith. And that I get to be your pastor.

I am writing because sometimes—in the midst of everything else that is going on—we forget to talk about the most important things.

Adults are pretty bad about that. We get distracted by feeling like we need to be in charge; feeling like we need to have an opinion. You know, because that’s what adults do—take charge and have opinions. We spend a lot of time—whether it is at church, or home, or the office—talking about things that matter to us…but they aren’t the most important things.

You know—I hope—that God loves you. But that’s just part of it. What is most important is that you know that God doesn’t just love you—but that God likes you—God delights in you. And not because of what you do—but because of who you are.

Maybe that’s obvious, and maybe you’ve heard me or someone else say that to you before, but it’s so important that I can’t say it enough.

I know that you live under a lot of pressure. School, social media, figuring out relationships—with friends, family, girlfriends/boyfriends, where you fit into the world, what you want to do. There’s a lot more for you to manage in your teenage years than there was 25 years ago when I was your age.

And I know what pressure does to people—because I know what it does to me. It can make us feel anxious; that pit you carry in your stomach when it feels like whatever you do, it’s not quite enough; where you feel like who you are as a person—what you are worth, whether you will be successful, whether you will live up to your parents’ expectations, whether or not you will be liked or loved—depends on you getting the things that are stressing you out right.

When I was your age, I remember that about the most unhelpful pieces of advice anyone ever gave me was “don’t stress out.” Like it is that easy. So I’m not going to give you that advice.

But I do want to apologize. Because part of what I think is causing you stress is something that your parents and I helped to create. And to be fair to us, our parents (and your grandparents) helped create it, too. And, to be fair to them, it’s really something that has been in the works for a long time.

I’m afraid we’ve helped create an environment where you are defined by the very things that stress you out: what you look like, how well you do at school, how you compare to other people your age, what career you will choose, how you manage your public image, your reputation.

And I’ll tell you a little secret. All that stuff is what stresses out your parents and me, too. You probably know that—you’re smart and perceptive. You probably watch us comparing you to other people your age. You watch us take our careers too seriously—trying to get ahead. You watch us worry about how we are perceived by others. Sometimes, maybe a lot of times, your parents and I take the things that make us anxious, that stress us out, and we push that stuff right along to you. You know why? It’s because we are trying to stay in control of our own lives…and yours. And that adds pressure that you don’t really need.

Some of you—many of you—are really good…exceptionally good…at managing all of this stress and pressure. And I have no doubt that most of you will sail through this next chapter of your life when you will graduate and go to college and launch a career and be successful and continue making a positive impact on the world.

I know about that. I’ve been there. It feels good to achieve your dreams.

But I also know that even if you have the absolute, most smashing success you could ever hope or dream for—even if you live up to every expectation that somebody else has for you (or you have for yourself)—even then, there will still be a part of you that wonders if you are enough. Because we spend so much of our lives judging and being judged by our successes and against our failures.

So here is what I want to say: God doesn’t just love you. God likes you. God delights in you. And not because of what you do. But because of who you are.

Oh—it’s a hard thing to remember.

And I hope you never doubt it.

But if you do, I want you to come back to the church and I want you to walk into the sanctuary and look into the baptismal font (where you have been baptized). And I want you ask yourself what you did to deserve being called a child of God and someone who is worthy of being saved by Jesus Christ?

The answer is nothing. And that is what makes grace so amazing.

You are all special people.

And I know it can be tough to navigate all you have going on in your lives.

Just remember that I love you—and your church family loves you—just the way you are…and no matter what.


October 11, 2017

Take a moment and picture yourself as a 16 year-old.

  • What did you look like? What clothes were you wearing?
  • Who were your friends or those you hung out with?
  • What did you do after school? What were your extracurricular activities?
  • How did you communicate with your friends?
  • Were you ever bullied or picked on by others. Or did you know someone who was?
  • What sorts of things stressed you out or worried you?
  • How involved in the church were you?

Now, take a moment and picture a specific teenager you know today. It can be your own child, family member, neighbor or member of our congregation.

  • What do they look like? What sorts of clothes do they wear?
  • Who are their friends or who do they hang out with?
  • What do they do after school? What are their extracurricular activities?
  • How do they keep in touch or communicate with their friends?
  • Have they ever been picked on or bullied? How and why were they bullied?
  • What sorts of things stress them out or worry them?
  • Are they involved in the church?

As you thought about your life as a teenager and a specific teenager today, I can imagine you pictured a few differences. When we talked about this in staff meeting last week, communication was one of the greatest differences. Another was how much more today’s youth have to deal with on a day to day basis than we did years ago.

I recently came across a number of articles in Time magazine about today’s youth dealing with anxiety and depression. This is what I learned:

  • Adolescents today have a reputation for being more fragile, less resilient and more overwhelmed than their parents were when they were growing up. They have been called spoiled or coddled or helicoptered.
  • They are a post 9/11 generation, raised in an era of economic and national insecurity. They’ve never known a time when terrorism and school shootings weren’t the norm.
  • They grew up watching their parents weather a severe recession.
  • They hit puberty at a time when technology and social media were transforming society.
  • Major depression among teens in the U.S., especially girls, has jumped 37% in the last decade.
  • In 2015, more than three million adolescents ages 12-17 reported at least one major depressive episode (MDE) in the past year. An MDE is defined as a period of at least two weeks of low mood that is present in most situations. More than 2 million report experiencing depression that impairs their daily function.
  • About 30% of girls and 20% of boys—totaling 6.3 million teens—have had an anxiety disorder.
  • Being a teenager today is a draining full-time job that includes doing schoolwork, managing a social-media identity and fretting about career, climate change, sexism, racism—you name it. Every fight or slight is documented online for hours or days after the incident. It’s exhausting.
  • Youth say: “We’re the first generation that cannot escape our problems at all.” “We’re all like little volcanoes. We’re getting this constant pressure, from our phones [social media sites], from our relationships, from the way things are today. I don’t have pressure from my parents. I’m the one putting pressure on myself.”
  • Teenagers’ emotional life is lived within the small screens on their phones. There is no firm line between their real and online worlds.
  • School pressures also play a role, particularly with stress. College applications, grades and not feeling qualified is a constant stress on our youth.

What is our role as the church?

Studies show that teenagers need at least three adults (other than parents) in their lives. How can we be those adults for our teenagers? What can we do to help?

Christian Formation and Health Ministries here at First Presbyterian, under the umbrella of Congregational Care, have teamed up to provide an ongoing series, Wonderfully and Fearfully Made. Each session will focus on a different age and topic faced by our youth, children or parents today.

Anxiety Comes Pre-Installed is our first session on Sunday, October 15, for high school Youth and parents. Dinner and the program for high school Youth and parents begin at 6 p.m. in Wood Fellowship Hall. It will be led by psychologist Jennifer Hawthorne. Stay tuned to hear about the other sessions coming in December for high school seniors, in January for high school senior parents, in the spring time for middle school youth and parents, and in April for rising sixth grade youth and parents.

Keep our youth and families in your thoughts and prayers.  Help our teenagers know that church is a safe place they can come to.

-Natalie Raygor, Director of Youth Ministries